So, I have to document the first real dating failure of my life. I agreed to go on a date with a guy from okcupid on Saturday without a bunch of messages between us, because I’ve had good experiences so far and I kind of thought, what’s the worst that could happen? Well, never making that mistake again.
I had a good time on the date, but when I thought back on it in the sober light of day, there was some boundary-pushing that I wasn’t totally comfortable with. And then when he sent me a few borderline creepy texts, I sent them to a friend for corroboration. She replied “shut it down.” So I tried to, with first one polite, distancing text, and then another that was more forceful and explicit when my first was met with a barrage of 12 texts. The second text from me led to 80 texts from him, 1 phone call, and one tear-streaked selfie, all unanswered. At first unanswered because I was babysitting, and then unanswered because he was clearly not going to be reasoned with.
Luckily, all he knows about where I live is borough and vague neighborhood info, otherwise I would have been hoofing it to my sister’s place for the night.
Never again going on a date without some sort of vetting.
Oh, and there was another call while I was typing this. I really hope that doesn’t signal a return of the texting.